I was talking to someone today about a man I was dating a few years ago. How he wanted me to act more like a woman. Being more helpless, asking for help even if I didn’t feel that I needed it. If you’re a strong woman you understand what I’m talking about. He told me that I was to strong, that he wanted to feel more like a man by helping me. Need I say that it didn’t work out between us?
My mom and dad always made me feel like I could do what ever I wanted. They never made me feel as I was the weaker sex. I helped my dad in the garage just like I helped my mom in the kitchen. So I grew up feeling that I could do the things boys could do as well. I became more independent.
So that thought got me thinking. Can a woman really be to strong for a man? Why do some men want women who are more weak? I think its kind of interesting. What is more important is to be loved for who you are and not for who they want you to be. If they want to change you, they didn’t love you in the first place.
You read everywhere that if you don’t love yourself its harder for someone else to love you back. Might sound like a cliche but it is so true. You have to love yourself. You are the one you will be in a relationship with no matter what, your whole life. If you do that, you will not be with someone who wants to change everything about you.
So what I want to say is, no matter if you’re a man or a woman. Keep your head up high, be proud of who you are and don’t let anyone change you. If they try they are probably not the one. Don’t be scared to be single, from my own experience I can say that it’s kind of great actually even though it might not feel that way sometimes. Might feel as if the environment is made for couples but its how you think that causes how you feel, not the environment. So be careful what you think.
Please share your experience with dating or if you have met someone who didn’t want you to be to independent. How did you handle it?